Canadian boy falls for a American Girl, but cant visit help!

I'm not to sure if this post is correct for this forum but I figured someone could help me out. Please stick with me, its a long story.

Ok, so my boyfriend is a canadian citizan and want to come visit me in the U.S. for a week or two. (He is 21 and i am 19)
We met online in nov. of 2007 and met for the first time that dec. and have been together ever since. We have been back and forth to each others homes many times.

Last time he tryed to come over for a week visit, he was stopped and not allowed to come in to the states, even though he had a passport, a return ticket, and has been here to visit me many times before! The BP said because he didn't have a job at the moment, lived with a parent, and had no cash on him,( he had his credit card and bank card tho), that he didnt have enough reason to come back to canada. (the reason he didnt bring cash was that there arent alot of places to get his money exchanged where i live and it was easier to just take out the cash once he got here)

They finger printed him and listed him as someone who tried to get in to live illegally. His mother had to come and get him and even she tried to tell them he was just trying to come see his girlfriend that he has visited many times before, for a week.
Even my father ( who is a retired policeman) called and told them that he invited my boyfriend to come stay for a week in his home.
But the BP still said that if they let him in, I'm going to "just bat my eyes at him and ask to stay a just a little longer" <- i was very offended by that!
The BP told him the only ways to get in to see me now is either for him to get a job for more then 6 months and try again then, or move out of his moms house and get his own place so he has a better tie to canada other then the fact that his whole life is there.

We have been together and serious for over a year and hope one day to move in together either in nj where i live or in montreal with him.

But until then, How can he come and visit me?! Is what the BP did allowed?! How can we get him out of the system as someone trying to "live here illegaly" when he never wanted to, he just wanted to visit for a week or two?
How can BP stop someone thats coming on vacation? Has a return ticket? A Passport? Its not like this guy stands out in a crowd..or looks fishy. He's a good guy. Help me get him here to visit me! Its been over 2 months since i saw him last and need to see him. I cant travel due to a work injury so i need him to come here!

Also a family member of mine is getting married in may and he was invited as my guest, If he has his invitation, would that he enough proof to let him come to the wedding?

I know this was long but thanks for listening to my problems and if you have any way to help please let me know.

P.s. sorry for the spelling mistakes and bad grammer!

Yes, what the BP did is "allowed" and it's their job. The only way your boyfriend is going to be able to visit you now is if he does what he was told. Get a job and/or a place of his own so that he can prove ties to Canada, and prove that he has no intent to immigrate illegally. Especially with a US citizen girlfriend, the proof of ties is an absolute *must*

No, a wedding invitation is not enough of a reason for them to let him back in unfortunately. Likely it would be more reason for them to deny him, and if he has not got himself a job and his own place, he ain't gettin' in no how. Sorry.

He's flagged now, if he tries to enter the US without having binding ties to Canada he could well be banned and/or arrested on sight. If you want to see your boyfriend, you will have to travel to Canada for now, until he can get out on his own. (I would suggest that you could also have the same difficulties getting into Canada if you do not have ties to the US).

Just because we share the world's longest unprotected border, does not make it an open border. There are laws in place to protect both countries from illegal entries and from people staying longer than they're allowed. It is up to each traveller to prove their intent is NOT to immigrate, and it is up to the CBP to assume we ARE immigrating without benefit of applying for a visa.

Thank you for your help! It's going to be hard but we will figure it out. I do have a job so i never get questioned to hard at the boarder, just with the ecommony, its getting harded for him to find a job. I guess ill just keep nudging him to keep looking. thank you for your patience with my long story.

The law requires a visitor to the US to have proof of an abode abroad, which it doesn't sound as though he had ("living with my mom" doesn't always cut it). A return ticket does help but in the book they use it says that bank cards mean nothing (let's face it they don't mean anything, it doesn't tell them how much money he has). If he'd had his bank statements on him that would have helped, copies of T4s, things like that.

Basically he needs to establish proof of an abode as the CBP told him to do. Rental agreement, lease agreement, proof of a job in Canada, proof of funds to cover the visit, etc.

Because he's been previously denied it will be harder to get in next time, so he must have those things on him next time he tries. The more of them he has, the better his chances.