I have dual (US/Canada) citizenship, and my boyfriend is a US citizen. After going back and forth for several years on where to live, we've decided to try both countries. I am going to move back to Canada to be closer to my family in 2009, and he would stay in the US and retain residency.
We aren't married yet, but plan to in the future and have a family (once I am fully reinstated back in Canada). This is where is gets tricky. Say in the future we have children, if I stay in Canada with them, can he come and go to Canada as he pleases (as a visitor)? I thought he'd be OK so long as he wasn't gone from the US for more than 6 months or something like that. (Just to add, we both travel for work, so the distance is a constant regardless of where we live.)
The reason we'd keep the arrangement as so is that he has a child in the US. For custody reasons it would not work for him to move to Canada until she is 18 or at least older than she is now. (She's nine.) Also, maternity benefits are much better in Canada and I'd prefer to raise my kids there.
I guess my questions are; 1) is it reasonable/legal for a married couple to live independently in 2 countries; 2) is this ridiculous to do with kids (from a legal/custody standpoint); and 3) any tips or tricks to make this easier?
Sorry for the novel and thanks for any tips. I got great advice from this board 8 months back.




