I'm hoping someone out there has had a similar experience and can advise/suggest on my options.
I moved to the UK in April 2004 on an Ancestry Visa after having met & fell in love with my current British partner. We have been living in rented accomodation together since then and at first everything was fine, I was working full-time in Finance & he was working full-time in Media.
About a year and a half ago however, he became ill with a prolonged deep deppresion and has been on medication/sick leave since January 2005. He was made redundant from the TV channel he worked for in June 2005.
Around the same time I got involved in a pay discrepancy issue with my employer who ended up trying to dismiss me with manufactured evidence (ie: false information), but in the end, I was able to argue my case enough to have him agree to a Compromise Agreement with a lump sum payment and my agreement to not pursue it any further.
Due to the fact that my partner was ill, I had to take over all of the household chores, banking/bills etc as well as looking for another job.
Finally late July/early August I got a temporary job at different company with the possibility of becoming permanent. I was pretty happy there and found it challenging to be introduced to new aspects of Finance I hadn't previously been exposed to. Obviously they had confidence in my abilities as they put more and more daily tasks & responsibilities on me and asked me to assist other members of staff more frequently.
Well it culmunated in November when it was discovered that sometime during September I had made a mistake which had not been detected by my superiors. Basically, a client was in financial trouble back in Sept, I didn't pick up on it & gave them a credit line and in November the client was discovered to have gone bankrupt. Long story short, I was dismissed for that mistake and had no rights to appeal as I was still under Temporary hire. This was the first time in my life I had ever been fired without being able to argue the case, I was new, I made a mistake and it cost the company money. nothing I could do about it if they didn't want to give me another chance.
Well that was the start of my deppresion. I was still trying to keep looking for other work in Finance for a couple of months but getting further and further into despair from the lack of suitable jobs, trying to maintain a cheerful outlook while inside I felt a complete failure & just wanted to run and hide from everyone and everything. Having to be strong for my partner & keep everything running in the house. Seriously doubting wether I ever wanted to go back into Finance, maybe another field would suit me better. all kinds of self-doubts and guilt took hold and invaded my thoughts every hour of every day.
I finally saw our GP about it last month as I felt I may have been on the verge of a complete breakdown. I was having great difficulty controlling my thoughts & emotions, crying spontanouesly & getting angry for the smallest reasons. The doctor told me I have what is called "Reactive Deppresion" which is different to my partners as he has a recurring condition. My deppresion has been caused by events around me hence "Reactive". I have started a course of St Johns Wort and am to follow up with the GP in a couple of weeks time to see if there is any progress.
Since November 2005 we had no income save my partners "Sick benefits" (which is only a couple hundred pounds a month) & I spent the first few months of 2006 trying to quickly bring myself up to speed as to what the laws were here, what he and I would be entitled to for help and where to find the forms send them etc. I realised that being on a Visa I'd probably not be entitled to any benefits so I've been sending the forms in on his behalf.
I've managed to get Housing/Council Tax benefits (I fill out all the paperwork & send it in, considering I'm not used to their laws and legal terms here, you can imagine how many headaches I got!) which pays about 1/2 of our rent/council tax. We have also gotten an HC2 form entitling Mike and myself to free NHS Dental & free prescriptions.
I just got notice back from the application for Income Support (like Welfare in Canada) and was told his claim was declined because he is being judged as a single man living alone & would have enough money to support himself. Obviously he's not single, so I telephoned the office that the letter came from and I was told that due to the Ancestry Visa in my passport saying "No recourse to public funds" that I basically am a non-entity and am not recognised as his civil partner.
Well, (if your still with me after that long read!) I bet you can imagine my reaction after all I'd been through the past 2 and a half years! I tried explaining the situation, he very politely told me to eff off in beurocratic language and said that until the Home Office revised the terms of my Visa so that it no longer said those little words on it, I would not be considered to be civil partners with any legal rights to be recognised as such in this country.
I am hoping that SOMEONE out there has encountered this problem before and may be able to offer advice/guidance, is there something I can do with the Home Office to have those words dissapear off my passport? Some way that I can actually become a living entity, not just the means of mental/emotional & physical support which ultimately caused my own downfall by neglecting my own needs?
If you have any help/advice or similar experiences, please either post a reply or PM/email me, I will be forever grateful.


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