Hi there, my boyfriend and I are also in a very similar situation. My boyfriend is English and I am Canadian. I recently applied for a 6 month visit visa, which I know Canadians don't normally need but I applied for it at the advice of Immigration at London Heathrow because at the end of this summer I was refused entry there when I arrived on my passport alone. As I had already had a 2 year
UK visa, which is when my boyfriend and I met, and it only expired a month before my return to England, they felt that my re-entry was too soon after my previous visa had expired. Also, they did not believe that I would leave at the end of the visit, even though I had a pre-paid return ticket to bring me back to Canada. Furthermore, they did not believe that I had "genuine" reason to be in the UK as a visitor, despite speaking themselves to my boyfriend, who was awaiting me in the arrivals area.
Anyway we hired a professional visa service, Global Visas, because I had had success with them before. We supplied copious amounts of documentation to prove our relationship, our financial situations (my boyfriend is a long-time borough council employee), and included air line tickets to show my past on time departures from the UK as well as an airline ticket to show my future intended departure from the UK. My visit visa application has still been refused!!! They do not believe that I am a genuine "visitor" nor do they believe I will leave the UK.
We know we want to be together for the rest of our lives, we are 100% committed to each other and we do intend to marry one day; but we would like a proper courtship, which the authorities are not allowing us to have, seemingly! How is a couple meant to have a proper courtship when they are not given the opportunity to nurture and develop their relationship by being together? My parents had most of their courtship apart whilst my father was stationed overseas in the early 70's, so if they can do it so can we, but because I have a refused entry stamp in my passport now, and a refused visa stamp as well, my boyfriend can only come here to Canada to see me until we get another visa (our plan is to go for the fiancee visa, which has a right of appeal if it is refused), and my boyfriend is going to do come over to Canada this Christmas and I am SOOOOO very much looking forward to seeing him cos we have been apart since July.
I think they look upon relationships as being the reason for entry as a visitor in a very suspicious light, even when the relationship is 100% real and genuine like me and mine. I don't know if this helps any of you, and I hope I haven't discouraged anyone too much; I hope that you all can find a way too of being with your partners...