Taking a break!

JLH
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Joined: 04 Aug 2004
Posts: 9

Posted: Wed Aug 04, 2004 6:07 pm

 

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HI! I moved to Sweden in May to live with my boyfriend...things were overwhelming and i moved back to Toronto in July for the time being...its hard being away from him. I am even registered for SFI in September but don't know if I will be going back. So many plans and i don't know what the future holds for us? Is there anyone out there that has gone through this type of ordeal?

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Anne g.
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Joined: 03 Aug 2004
Posts: 6
Location: Stockholm, Sweden

Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2004 1:51 pm

 

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Feel for you , kid. It is incredibly difficult to move to another country, especially when you are unsure about your relationship. You are obviously brave and wise...taking a break was probably a good thing. You´ll just have to follow your heart, like the rest of us gamblers. Nobody can promise if a relationship will last 25 years, 25 months or 25 days. One thing I do know, is that you learn a great deal by travelling, and even more, by living in another country. It certainly gives you a new respect for immigrants to Canada. I´ve lived here for half my life, my children are Swedish first and feel at home in Canada. For me, it was a gamble that really paid off. Take your time,talk it over with your closest friends, talk it over with your Swedish friend and then, make a decision.GOOD LUCK, what ever you decide!
Anne.

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JLH
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Joined: 04 Aug 2004
Posts: 9

Posted: Thu Aug 05, 2004 3:21 pm

 

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Hej Anne!
Thanks for the response! You know we have been dating for 1 1/2 years long distance...we met on a mediterrean cruise in '02, he was travelling with his family and myself with a girlfriend of mine...he came to see me two months after meeting, he then came about every two months after that to see me (some of those times would spend up to two weeks with me), he even came over over the easter break for 3 days last year. i had visited him twice before i moved there. we talked on the phone, e-mail, he sent roses..the works...and i made one comment at the connecting airport to sweden in may (about conversation between us?!) (i think i was tired and quite emotional about things) ..and i became quiet and so did he, there were many welcome parties held for us that week and he was back to work and strangely we both became sad and miserable-more like friends than anything-we are usually attached at the hip. i being more agressive about dealing with my emotions and he quiet about his emotions...opposites in that manner. i went home for 2 1/2 weeks in june then came back at the end of june but came with empty bags b/c no one was resolving what to do next. we have strong feelings, miss each other alot and still love one another but i think we were turned off about the way we dealt with the situation. so i am back at home looking for a job and we will plan a trip away somewhere in sept/oct. i have talked to many friends/family and they tell me to do what makes me happy or what is in the heart...we maybe need time to think about all of this..maybe we lived in a fantasy for abit...also, he planned proposing to me on our cruise to finland in may..he didn't and i was fine with that but we 'weren't right'-so alot of things he/i planned that didn't happen..that makes everyone sad! So Anne that is my story really summed up! time will tell! but i have to say i really miss him and i really miss sweden-i felt like i somewhat belonged there?! Good story for Reader's Digest huh! sorry to bog you down with details! hejda! Jennifer

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